maya-angelouI’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

–Maya Angelou


How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

Have you ever thought about what impression you leave or wonder how people will remember you? What is it about another that leaves a lasting impression on you, even years later? We have all met people who through a brief exchange affected us deeply. It may have been a teacher, a mentor, a neighbor, or even a stranger on the bus.

0c837700-b893-4e73-90b4-6b7d41364750I remember being in an audience of 2,000 at a Tony Robbins seminar in 1996. His presence and commitment to our growth was so strong that he filled the entire room. I felt like he was speaking directly to me. To this day I can still feel his heart. What a gift. Since that remarkably inspiring day I have prayed to make that kind of whole hearted impact on others.

Last Tuesday I went to an event at the Founders Floor in San Jose, California. It was for tech start-ups to find partners, funding and resources. I met a man just briefly at the beginning named Cam who builds iPhone apps, but the connection was superficial and quick. After the 60 people gave their 45 second introduction (which 12 years ago you couldn’t have paid me to do), Cam came bounding up to me and said,

“You connected with us with your eyes and your heart so genuinely that it felt like you filled the room with love. I believe that you aren’t just here to help people give a great speech, but that you’re on this planet to teach them how to love. Bless you for that.”

The impact of his words brought both of us to tears. A dream of mine came true again. Because I let down my barriers of protection and allowed him to feel my heart and complete presence for 45 seconds he was able to trust me and connect in a meaningful way.

It doesn’t take long to make a positive, lasting impression – and it takes courage.

How would it feel to stand in the power of your authentic presence, knowing you are a gift and be remembered that way?

For so many of us, especially if we consider ourselves to be introverts, we present what we think others want to see, and we don’t speak up due to fear of judgment. Presenting ourselves in the most honest light while being aware of others’ feelings not only frees us of the burden of being guarded, it also frees others to be themselves. This is vulnerable work, and it’s through vulnerability that the deepest connections are made – in a meeting with colleagues, during a networking event, social engagement, sales presentation, or on stage giving a speech. This is a gift we give ourselves and in turn it gives others permission to be vulnerable with us and connect more deeply.

How you present yourself to others will undoubtedly cause them to feel something. We certainly should choose our words and actions wisely, but ultimately, you will be remembered for how you make others feel.

When you begin to pay attention to how you present yourself, and how present you are to others in the room, you move from reacting to the world to intentionally showing up. There is so much beauty inside of you waiting to express itself. The only thing you need to do is be your most authentic self. Let that be what others see.

Those that leave the strongest mark on us are the ones who show up in the world fully themselves –                    no mask, no pretense and no fabrication.

Imagine living in a world where every single one of us shows up genuinely true to who we know we are, from the heart and with empathy. What a joy that would be!

The world needs your authentic voice, your unique gifts and your precious light.

Tell me, how do you want to be remembered?

What would it look like for you to show up fully yourself?
Write down 3 ways you want to be remembered and/or 3 ways you would be different if you showed up in the world authentically you.                                                                                                                           



“The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is being insincere.”

–Anne Morrow Lindbergh